Sitting here thinking about love and marriage. Behind us is
a most dreadful national quarrel about who gets to be
married. Before us is Valentine’s Day, the annual reminder
that romantic love is worth celebrating. I would rather
celebrate than quarrel. Romantic love–mysterious and
troublesome as it is–is one of the splendid facts of
existence.
“First comes love, then comes marriage…” Even many who
have failed at marriage are compelled to try it again. And
sometimes again.
I love the way gay author Jonathan Rauch puts it: “For
all of its failings in particular cases...marriage is the
great civilizing institution. No other institution has the
power to turn narcissism into partnership, lust into
devotion, strangers into kin.”
So here is my tribute this Valentine Season to the
wedding of romantic love (eros) and agape (Christlike love)
and to that awesome institution of marriage:
DOUBLE WEDDING
Let’s have a double wedding,
You and me
And eros and agape.
Let us post
Interchangeable notes
On bedroom wall
And refrigerator:
“Love thy lover”
And “Love thy neighbor.”
Let us hold hands
In movies and in the hospital.
Let us kiss shoulders and eyelids
And the cut fingers
Of small children.
Let us serve one another
Apple blossoms in vases
And quartered fruit on trays.
Let us write poems
And wills to each other.
Let us have nights
As friendly lovers
And days as loving friends.
And let the four of us,
You and me
And eros and agape,
Stand in line together
At the grocery store
And at a golden anniversary.
CLP
In Love Again and Always
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FACING EAST
(stage play about Mormon couple dealing with the suicide of
their gay son) continues its good work:
